HCA: Hermit Crab Association

Hi everyone, I'm new. I joined because my cousins recently went on a trip to Flordia. They got me a hermit crab which is fine, i already have had one for almost 5 years. However there's six kids that went with them, and they got hermit crabs for all those kids. At my cousins house, we'll call her Julie, her grandkids are in her care most likely permanently and they are named(for this post) Logan(6-7, F), Brayden(8-9, M), Waylon(7, M), and Alden(10-11, M) each kid got two crabs. And the crabs are babies, like not even half an inch shell size. I was telling Julie about a 30 gallon storage tote for $10 at the local dollar general and was telling her about 50LBS of sand for not even $5, and she said no I see those things(crabs) living in those(~1 gallon plastic tanks, less than an inch of substrate, no water dish), for years in Flordia. And I'm only 13, so I can't argue with her. However I noticed one of Alden's crabs have a broken claw. Her upper portion is missing and I told them she might die if she isn't able to molt and I was dismissed again. A few days ago I offered 'hey if you or the kids get tired of them I'd be happy to take them' and yet again she got snippy and rude. I did an experiment a few days ago, I fed them on Wednesday and watered them and waited till Friday to return. The food was molded(it was fruit), the sponges were dry, the crabs were eating them, so I fed and watered them. I found out this grown woman was talking about me and saying how the kids might've wanted to wet their own d*mn sponges when they woke up. Mind you everytime I go up there the kids are on their tablets and I ask do yall want to do this and they say no. I also waited till 12 PM to go up there. She was telling all the kids that I wanted to steal their crabs. She'll be all rude and stuff and then call me the crab expert and ask why I didn't bring food for them. Not to mention the kids(especially Logan) handles them so much. The other day she put one in my hand and it pinched me. I looked up and Logan was yanking on it shell, the moment I got her to stop it let go of me and I felt so so bad. I don't know what to do because no adult is helping me. And I try to educate Julie and she gets rude and goes they live for years in those things. Please help!! Thank you


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