sis in law gots her a new boy toy

[Laurie LeAnn]

Found out today that my sis in that lost her hubby a few yrs ago has started to date. Everyone is happy , we have one person that has to be a brat. The little sister, she has to make her feel bad. Never can except change,thinks she should sit at home be unhappy, never be with anyone. Dian said her daughter has said go for it mom, she said Jim her hubby that has passed told her when he dies he wanted her to date again, he knew he was going to die. I told her you have a right to be happy, a right to have someone in your life, I'm thrilled, her dad approved to. I bout said you don't need anyone's approval!she said I am not replacing my first husband, he is always Amanda's dad and Collins grandpa. I just want to be happy to. I gave her 2thumbs up

[Crabber85]

@Laurie, I know a few older people who after several years living as a widow or widower started dating again and actually ended up getting married.I've been taught from a young age that it is not good for man(meaning both men and women)to be alone men were meant to leave their mothers at a certain age and to cleave unto their wives and women were appointed to be the help meet to the man meaning that they shouldn't be alone either and that they were meant to be a help to the man.It's something embedded deep down in a persons soul or spirit that makes them have the need to be pair bonded with another.In the old world when a man died if he had any brothers and if any one of them were still single that living brother was commanded by law to take the widowed wife of his deceased brother to keep her safe and care for her and if his deceased brother had yet to have a child then it was up to the living brother as part of the law to make sure the blood line continued on.Now this day in age those laws don't apply but that same instinct to find another is still very present and I can't say oh you shouldn't be disgracing your deceased husband by dating again unless you happen to be hitting one of his buddies up at his funeral.lolI think that there is a certain amount of time that needs to lapse between the loss of the husband to dating again just out of respect but after that the woman should be allowed to find another to cleave to for her benefit if nothing else.

[Laurie LeAnn]

It has been a little over two years and believe me she has grieved over and over is so depressed! She is in need of a friend or relationship if it works to that. She has everyone's blessings even her dead husbands!but have heard of the old ways to. I also believe that there should be time before you go out and start looking for someone and do the dating thing. This woman in the last 3years has racked up huge hospital bills , Jim's disability and Medicare didn't pay much, he was in and out a lot then passed away in there, then funeral cost they couldn't pay for, house payments, cat car troubles, house hold stuff breaking down and on and on.. I mean some of this she could of avoided buy saving money and paying for it instead of family. But she thought for some reason we all owed her and we should take care of her while she took her money and blew it! Well she has now lost her house, it's in foreclosure. She in a very small apartment. Like I said she brings on things on her self, she went and gave a lot of her things away or tossed them and bought brand new! Now is broke, I think she is trying to fill a void. Maybe having a " friend" will make her happy and she need to buy stuff