What would you do?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Feb 02, 2007 11:41 am

What a story!!! Sounds like you all just dont get along that well and that there could do with a batch of kindness all around.Maybe you could bring a batch of your favorite x-lax chocolate chunk cookies and give em to her as a thank you for inviting me to dinner gift. Just tell her to open them later because you made em just for her.And BTW bring your own dish.

rottiegirl25 · Post by **rottiegirl25** » Fri Feb 02, 2007 12:22 pm

I think i would play sick if it was me lol.

Pharfly1 · Post by **Pharfly1** » Fri Feb 02, 2007 2:39 pm

MMMMM duck, we eat duck at christmas every year...I spent 10 years as an aqua-ovaterian (only eat things that swim and come from eggs and not anything with hooves) So I often went to supper where beef and pork was served. I would just eat everything but the meat. It's pretty sad that she tried to hide it from you. I remeber when I was a kid I vowed NEVER to eat lamb, a few months later I discovered that one of my Mom's friends served us lamb and I ate it, I just figured it was pork chops.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Feb 03, 2007 12:54 am

Eat everything but that dish. Fill up on bread. Eat dessert and compliment her on that. If anyone asks, say you're allergic to duck. OK, that's a silly lie, but from what I gather, it's already going to be a pink elephant (a small one). My mother once tried to trick me into eating moosemeat. I knew the difference. Of course, I was a kid then, so crying about not liking dinner was something I could sorta get away with. I guess you couldn't do that tomorrow. Let us know how it goes and good luck.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Feb 03, 2007 6:50 am

Deb,Here's what I think should happen. Your husband should tell his mother that he has told you about the duck. And then he should stand up to her, for you, and say," Deb has told you she doesn't like duck, and I would like you to make something else, or we won't be coming to dinner."Or on the other hand............. You could make a tuna cassarole and make it with wet cat food, and tell her...I'll eat yours if you eat mine!!!I think the first suggestion is the best bet, and the more mature way of handling things. She (MIL) would lose some power if your DH stands up for you. After all he is your husband and your family comes first before his parents..............................Just a thought.Valerie

Crabby Abby · Post by **Crabby Abby** » Sat Feb 03, 2007 7:00 am

No chance of that LaughingPeach. I asked him last night if he knew before I did what she was serving and he said yes. I said "and you didn't tell me? Did you at least tell her that I don't eat it?" I should've said remind rather than tell because several Christmas' ago my BIL brought a duck dinner and I wouldn't touch it. He snapped, "No, I didn't realize I was supposed to. What are you thinking this is a conspiracy??" Oh please, yes, a conspiracy to get me to eat duck. The nice thing to do would've been for him to just tell her. Crap if he were coming to my mother's house and she was cooking something he didn't eat I would mention it to both of them. I didn't realize there had to be a requirement for him to step up for me. Now I'm irritated with both of them.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Feb 03, 2007 11:25 am

CA, I am sorry. I don't eat game of any kind, or seafood. There is no way someone would make me eat something I didn't want to. Saying that, I don't have a MIL, she died before we got married. But you are an adult, and no-one can force you to eat anything you don't want to, and that is what I would say at dinner. I would politly refuse the duck, and then if there is any flack, I would state that I was an adult, and I am free to choose what I eat.Good Luck tomorrow, and let us know.Valerie

Crabby Abby · Post by **Crabby Abby** » Sat Feb 03, 2007 11:37 am

I know I can refuse to eat it, I just think it's very inconsiderate that neither my MIL nor hubby seem to care that I don't. lolI don't eat veal either and she's always respected that. Go figure.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Feb 03, 2007 9:05 pm

Maybe you should give your husband the Xlax cookies and then you wont hav to go at all because he is sick? Sorry the issue has wore so heavy on ya the last couple days, My MIL and I also have a rocky relationship at times but I just remember that I only have to please her when Im in her presence and that I can hold my feelings of frustration to myself for that short period of time.Hope things go as smooth as possible and that you can find some way to enjoy part of your visit.

motley crew · Post by **motley crew** » Sun Feb 04, 2007 12:55 am

This whole thing would be grating on me both your MIL and Hubby. I would bring something nice and just not eat anything that could even remotely be used as a meat dish because now there just trying to prove a point.Bring something with crab in it and them tell them you got tried of your pets see how they like it then!

Crabby Abby · Post by **Crabby Abby** » Sun Feb 04, 2007 2:02 am

Turducken Creative name, no? gag

newhermiemami · Post by **newhermiemami** » Sun Feb 04, 2007 5:35 am

Thats kinda errmm...interesting!

KittyCaller · Post by **KittyCaller** » Sun Feb 04, 2007 7:57 am

I've heard of a turducken. A lot of times when it's going to be a fairly large crowd and their not sure they'll have enough for everyone, they make one of those. At least, that's what I heard. I think from an episode of Good Eats. (My favorite cooking show)

Nicole · Post by **Nicole** » Sun Feb 04, 2007 8:13 am

I remember John Madden eating turducken on an episode of Monday Night Football right before Thanksgiving. That always stuck in my head because it was so gross. Let us know how it went today CA.

Rachel · Post by **Rachel** » Sun Feb 04, 2007 9:03 am

Turducken...very yummy!! I'm very interested to hear how the family dinner goes.