domestic update

pinkypie · Post by **pinkypie** » Fri Jun 28, 2013 4:06 pm

Tonight, he came into my room and started flipping out at me for not giving him enough attention today and not taking care of him while he's sick. Today I took two naps because I was really tired and just sat in my room reading, smoking, organizing some university stuff online, and checking on my pets.He started yelling and shouting at me and blocking my exit. I had the cops on speed dial so I hit the button behind my back. The dispatch officer heard everything. I had to force my way out and he tried to follow me.He told the cops that I assaulted him and pulled a gun out on him, but I don't even have one or have a weapons license. They were trying to get me to leave my apartment for the night, even though I'm the only one on the lease and don't have anywhere to go. All my family and friends are back home, but he kept telling the cops that I in fact do have somewhere to go, trying to make it so I had to sleep on the streets when I have to open my store tomorrow morning.So the officer told me to show him my phone with all my contacts, but I told him that the people with the IA phone code don't live in Iowa City, but in Des Moines and I don't have a car, and I'm exhausted. They ended up making him leave and escorted him to his car. They got him for a verbal domestic, which isn't an actual charge, but just for their records to keep track of the situation.He kept telling them that I have a friend named "Mandy" who lives in town that I could stay with, but I don't know anyone with that name. I hope he gets charged for lying to an officer. They're making him go to his mom's house, but he'll be back tomorrow.I felt like the original cop who stayed with me was on my side, but all the others were against me and one said he wanted to charge me with assault because I had to push him out of my way, but the original cop said I was not going to be charged with anything, so that's good.I'm just sitting here smoking, trying to calm down. My stomach is in knots. I told him the next time he has an anger explosion, that I'm not going to deal with it--I'll just call the cops and have them deal with it because I'm sick of having panic attacks (I have PTSD and feel very unsafe when someone is shouting at me) and having to go to the emergency room to have a psychiatrist calm me down.No one in my hometown is awake because it's past midnight there, so everyone has already gone to bed, and many of my friends are college students and out of town, so if anyone here wants to text me, my number is 319-936-3155. I feel so alone and nervous. I've been stressed out all day and now this. I don't think I'll be able to sleep tonight. It's just me and the crabs and tarantula. :'( I feel like I'm gonna puke.

crabber101 · Post by **crabber101** » Fri Jun 28, 2013 5:19 pm

I'm so so sorry all this is happening. I don't really know what to say, as I've never been in a situation like this, but I hope you feel better and everything gets sorted out soon! For now, I think you should try to get your mind off what's going on, maybe watch the crabs or Sammy?

pinkypie · Post by **pinkypie** » Fri Jun 28, 2013 5:28 pm

Thank you for replying. At the moment, I'm moving the crab's tank back into my room... a bit difficult because it's about 80lbs! and I'm still sleepy lol. I'll probably use my skateboard to move it in here. I have a lock on my door that requires a key that only I have, so I can lock the door when I leave for work. And if he tries to break down my door, then he's gonna get in even bigger trouble and will never be able to pursue the career he's in school for.

Geranium · Post by **Geranium** » Sat Jun 29, 2013 12:24 am

Its good you called the police. Have you called a domestic violence hotline? They know how to help. I would get out of there today if possible. Ask about a shelter until you can relocate. The one I was aware of because of my mother's involvement with them 20+ years ago would come pick you up and take you to a safe place, then escort you to work, etc. and get you to a place away from the threat (your home town).Good Luck, Stay Safe.

pinkypie · Post by **pinkypie** » Sat Jun 29, 2013 5:16 am

Thanks, yes I did call that number last night and gave me some good advice. Today he said he was going to move out of my place. He's in the process of moving all his stuff out. I'm fixin to get a no contact order after he's gone.

Crabber85 · Post by **Crabber85** » Sat Jun 29, 2013 11:35 am

I'm sorry to hear your having trouble but If I were you I'd get a restraining order against the guy because he sounds from your description to be very unstable both mentally and emotionally and odds are he'll be back in a couple of days.BTW I'd also go get myself a taser or can of pepper spray as a back up so if he gets to physical it can be ended safely and quickly.

pinkypie · Post by **pinkypie** » Thu Jul 18, 2013 7:18 am

restraining order: check!pepper spray: check!